Friendship Puzzlers

How much do you know about friendship? Click on the answer you think is best for each of these Friendship Puzzlers!


Friendship Puzzler #183: Your friend says he/she wants to play with someone else at recess today. You should:

  1. Yell, “You traitor! I’m never speaking to you again!”
  2. Suggest, “How about if we all play together?”
  3. Say, “OK, maybe tomorrow.”
  4. Burp loudly.
  5. (b) or (c).

Answer: b or c or e — If you enjoy the game your friend wants to play, playing all together, option b), can expand your friendship circle, and it’s a kind thing to do because it means your friend doesn’t have to choose between you and the other friend. Otherwise, option c) is your best choice. Getting mad or insisting that your friend HAS to play with you will hurt your friendship.


Friendship Puzzler #202: Your friend beats you at checkers three times in a row and wants to play again. You should:

  1. Accuse your friend of cheating.
  2. Knock the board over and say your friend has to pick up the pieces.
  3. Say, “Ugh. I guess so” and sulk or don’t even try during the next game.
  4. Say, “You sure are good at checkers!” and suggest a different activity.
  5. Start singing Somewhere Over the Rainbow.

Answer: d — It’s not fun to lose–especially three times in a row–but you need to be a good sport. c) is not a good answer because, even though you’re doing what your friend wants, you’re not doing it in a friendly way. That ruins the game for your friend. It’s better to suggest a new activity that both you and your friend will enjoy, so you can have fun together.

Friendship Puzzler #765: When you see a kid you know outside of school, you should:

  1. Ignore him or her.
  2. Accuse him or her of following you.
  3. Smile and say hi, using his or her first name.
  4. Hide behind the nearest tree then sprint in the opposite direction.

Answer: c — Saying hi is a friendly thing to do. Adding the other kid’s name makes your greeting more personal and more friendly. You don’t have to be best friends with people to greet them. Sometimes, kids have trouble with greetings because they feel shy or self-conscious. Say hi, anyway. If you say nothing or look away, you’re telling the other kid, “I don’t like you, and I don’t want anything to do with you!”

Friendship Puzzler #921: You’re having a conversation with a kid who says something mean about your friend. You should:

  1. Tell your friend what you heard.
  2. Say something nice, to stick up for your friend.
  3. Give that person a karate chop.
  4. Ignore it and change the subject (and remember that this kid talks behind people’s backs).
  5. (b) or (d).

Answer: b or d or e — Saying something nice to stick up for your friend is the kindest thing to do. If you don’t feel able to do that, for whatever reason, ignoring the comment and changing the subject at least cuts off the mean comment and shows you’re not interested in mean talk. Telling your friend what you heard seems like a loyal thing to do, but it spreads meanness, so don’t do it. If you repeat the comment, your friend will feel bad and the other kid will also get mad at you.


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